Kate Neill, MJLST Staffer
Introduction
The Tea App has exploded in popularity in the past year as a place for women to anonymously share their experiences with men they have dated or matched with online. The app was launched in 2023 as a “women-only dating safety net” for those navigating the modern dating scene.[1] To gain access to the platform, users must first submit a photo as proof of their gender. Once approved, users can anonymously share photos of men, soliciting comments from other women warning them of potential “red flags.” Platforms allowing women to crowdsource information on potential partners are not a novel concept; in fact, Facebook groups such as “Are We Dating the Same Guy” have existed for years. However, the rapid-growing popularity of the tea app has raised legal controversy, and several law firms now advertise representation for men believing they have been targeted by defamatory posts.[2]
Why it Resonates: The Modern Dating Landscape

Information-sharing groups have grown out of necessity as dating has radically changed in the 21st century. Most people have seen a now-famous graph tracing how couples met over time: meeting through mutual friends used to dominate, while today that category has plummeted as dating apps have skyrocketed.[3] Putting aside whether this shift is good or bad, it undeniably changes the safety dynamics in dating. When your date came recommended by a friend, you had informal assurances about their character and background. Today, the norm is going out with someone who is, essentially, a complete stranger thanks to online dating. Whatever the benefits of digital dating, this erosion of social vetting introduces new vulnerabilities. With this new risk, it’s no surprise that women are turning back to the internet to find out who exactly they’re getting involved with.
Many women argue that anonymous platforms such as the Tea App create a necessary safe space to share about harmful dating experiences without fear of retaliation.[4] Considering online dating looks a lot like the wild west, this is an understandable perspective. However, anonymous information sharing through social media inevitably opens the door to ill-intended revenge plots and false rumors. The Tea App has just as quickly become a vehicle for defamatory statements that cause reputational harm.
Legal Stakes: When Posts Become Defamation
Posts that make a false statement of fact about an identifiable person that harms their reputation may rise to the level of defamation. Proving a post constitutes defamation requires (1) the statement is presented as a fact (not an opinion), (2) the post is conveyed to a third party (shared to the platform for other users to see), (3) made with some degree of fault (negligence for private individuals and “actual malice” for public figures), (4) and causes demonstrable reputational harm.
Therefore, posts that say “I felt unsafe on my date” are opinions, and not considered defamation. But, if a user makes an untrue factual allegation, there are potential legal ramifications. For example, multiple lawsuits arose in the state of Michigan after a young man was accused of rape on the Tea App.[5] Criminal allegations represent the type of posts ripe for litigation, though these lawsuits are generally considered an uphill battle for plaintiffs. The anonymity of the Tea App is an added barrier for proving defamation because it complicates the fault analysis.[6] Tracing the original poster can require cooperation from the platform or even subpoenas.
What to Do if You Believe You’ve Been Defamed
Section 230 of the Communications Decency Act provides broad immunity for online platforms for content posted by their users.[7] Section 230 provides an effective legal shield for the Tea App to avoid defamation lawsuits targeting the app. Despite the platform itself being protected, those harmed by content posted on the Tea App may be able to take legal action against the individual user who posted the harmful content to the protected app.[8]
If you believe you have been defamed on the Tea App, consider taking the following action:
- Preserve Evidence: Screenshot posts before they are deleted or removed. Evidence existing on social media can quickly vanish, so work with a trusted friend to gain access to the app (in the case of men unable to access the Tea App) and document everything including the harmful posts, users accounts, and timestamps.[9]
- Request Removal: File a removal request through the app’s reporting process. The Tea App has policies against defamatory content, and the platform purports to remove content that violates these guidelines.[10] If attempts directly through the app are unsuccessful, you can file a complaint directly through the Apple App Store.[11] Because posts often include photos taken from your social media accounts, this strategy involves a copyright infringement claim. Apple will in turn put pressure on the platform to remove the harmful or infringing content.[12]
- Consult an Attorney: Especially if posts allege criminal conduct, use your full identity, or cause employment or social consequences, consider seeking legal advice. Experienced attorneys can help ensure post removal and determine if posts meet the legal requirements for defamation.[13]
- Consider a Defamation Action: In serious cases, you may be able to assert your rights through a defamation lawsuit.[14] However, keep in mind that identifying users may require a time-consuming legal process and cooperation with the platform.
Conclusion
The rise of the Tea App reflects changes in how we date and how we protect ourselves in the real world. Crowdsourced information is important for protecting women, but information-sharing comes with responsibility. If something false and harmful is attached to your name, you are not powerless. Preserve evidence, request removal, and speak with counsel if necessary. Ultimately, the goal on all sides is to foster a safe, honest dating environment to bring back real-world connection in the digital age.
[1] The Tea App: From Safety Haven to Legal Showdown, Henderson, Goldberg & DeMarco LLP, https://www.hgdlawfirm.com/blog/the-tea-app-from-safety-haven-to-legal-showdown/ (last visited Dec. 15, 2025).
[2] See, e.g., Minc Law, Tea App Defamation: What to Do If You’re Defamed on the Tea App, MincLaw.com, July 25, 2025, https://www.minclaw.com/tea-app-defamation/.
[3] Michael J. Rosenfeld et al., Disintermediating Your Friends: How Online Dating in the United States Displaces Other Ways of Meeting, 116 Proc. Nat’l Acad. Sci. 17753, Fig. 1 (2019), https://doi.org/10.1073/pnas.1908630116.
[4] See e.g., Jacqui Wakefield, My Ex Stalked Me, So I Joined a ‘Dating Safety’ App. Then My Address was leaked, BBC (Aug. 22, 2025), https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/ce87rer52k3o; Scarlett Dempsey, Tea Dating Safety App: Is it Really Worth Spilling the Tea?, Cardinal Times (Dec. 11, 2025), https://cardinaltimes.org/26725/news/tea-dating-safety-app-is-it-really-worth-spilling-the-tea/.
[5] Kara Berg, Tea App Dating Advice Users Face Defamation Lawsuits Over Posts, but Plaintiffs Face Uphill Fight, Detroit News (Aug. 18, 2025), https://www.detroitnews.com/story/news/local/michigan/2025/08/18/tea-app-dating-advice-users-face-defamation-lawsuits-over-posts-women-date-safely-men-insults/85615891007/?gnt-cfr=1&gca-cat=p&gca-uir=true&gca-epti=z117354p004850c004850d00—-v117354d–40–b–40–&gca-ft=208&gca-ds=sophi.
[6] Melisa Zukic & Abdurrahman Zukic, Defamation Law and Media: Challenges of the Digital Age, 5 Map Educ. & Human. 98, 105 (2024), https://scispace.com/pdf/defamation-law-and-media-challenges-of-the-digital-age-34zg2lhy2pks.pdf.
[7] Communications Decency Act of 1996, 47 U.S.C. § 230 (2025).
[8] Zukic & Zukic, supra note 6.
[9] Minc Law, supra note 2.
[10] Id.
[11] Id.
[12] Id.
[13] Id.
[14] The Tea App: From Safety Haven to Legal Showdown, Henderson, Goldberg & DeMarco LLP, https://www.hgdlawfirm.com/blog/the-tea-app-from-safety-haven-to-legal-showdown/ (last visited Dec. 15, 2025).
